‘Bossy’ is the new b-word

I’m Just Sayin’

by SHEILA SMITH

I cannot stand a male chauvinist.

What I truly cannot tolerate? A feminist.

Either one is the fanatical version of his or her gender but as a woman, I feel particularly misrepresented by the Hilary Clinton/Lena Dunham types who feel women need to be empowered through free birth control and a constant parade of sexual partners.

Some of today’s women, much like many minorities, attempt to gain power by riding on the coattails of their ancestors or previous generations who were truly victimized and oppressed. Some women today, especially in free countries like America, like to give the battle cry but I don’t know what or whom they are fighting.

I can understand fighting for oppressed females in Middle Eastern countries or third world areas where an appropriate criminal punishment for a woman is gang rape; I don’t know what American women are whining about. We hardly face what the women of yesteryear endured.

Since I am not surprised some women whine, however, it was no shock to discover the latest campaign from the feminist sect, Ban Bossy.

If you have yet to hear anything about the Ban Bossy movement, here is a snippet from its official website, banbossy.com: “When a little boy asserts himself, he’s called a ‘leader.’ Yet when a little girl does the same, she risks being branded ‘bossy.’ Words like bossy send a message: don’t raise your hand or speak up. By middle school, girls are less interested in leading than boys – a trend that continues into adulthood. Together we can encourage girls to lead.”

Apparently, the women behind the campaign believe only females are referred to as bossy. The women behind the campaign also believe referring to a female as bossy will cripple said female for life, leading to her flunking out of school and supporting her drug habit by prostituting herself to strangers on the street.

Some of the women behind the campaign include former Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice and Girl Scouts USA CEO Anna Maria Chavez – two women alone who prove little girls with dreams can obviously grow up to become leaders.

But the best backer of the campaign, the one who makes it hilariously hypocritical, is none other than pop icon Beyonce.

Beyonce proves girls can be leaders. She has been a star since she was a teenager. She fronted an incredibly successful female singing group before taking over the world as a solo artist. She has an incredible voice and stellar songwriting abilities and even moved on to the silver screen. She’s made millions on her own and is known as an idol to many young girls and women.

But Beyonce doesn’t like the word bossy and what it makes girls feel like. Beyonce is okay with that other “b-word” that is hurled at and between women, because she includes it in many of her songs. She is also okay with singing about sexual favors and all the ways her body can be used.

But Beyonce draws the line at being called “bossy”. “Bossy” is just uncalled for.

I thought this whole situation was ludicrous. Surely, I thought, the celebrities got bored after the Academy Awards and decided to start a bogus campaign.

A teacher friend of mine,  however, said the “bossy” struggle is real. One day a young female student of hers was, in fact, being bossy. So she told the girl, “Stop being bossy.”

Well, the darling girl’s parents took offense to that command. The mommy and daddy were so outraged, they complained to the school principal who then asked my friend not to use such a word – basically saying, “Do not be honest with this child or any child about their behavior.”

There is a difference between “bossy” and “boss.” The two are not the same and I do not believe only pushy little girls are described as bossy. I have personally told each of my three nephews on various occasions, “Stop being bossy,” when they are trying to act like the parent or in-charge adult toward another kid.

The truth is, sometimes kids act bossy. Bossy is when someone rudely assumes power over others. Bossy is in no way a leadership quality. I have a boss; she is not bossy. She will show me how to do certain tasks or handle situations. She does not, however, sit on a throne and bark orders.

Sometimes kids act bossy. Some kids are always bossy. The problem is not with the word “bossy” itself; the problem is that the truth sometimes hurts, and some women do not like hearing that they are jerks.

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